This is the cause of all pain and suffering in the world. The basis or root of this is the false belief in an “I” or “self” existing separately from every one and everything else. This sticky relationship with the self is made worse by lack of unconditional love, altruistic compassion, and direct insight into the illusory nature of everything and complete lack of emotional stability and mind training. One needs the help of a lama guru, who can logically give the methods and correct motivation for human being to to develop their mind and mature in a way that produces lasting happiness or bliss versus temporal happiness.